A Hint of Hope

Okay so here’s the deal. Im no expert on the way males think. In fact, I’m prettysure it’s impossible to know why guys think the way they do. If by chance you think you’ve got it all down, pardon me and more power to you. What I do know , however is that I have had my fair share of experiences with the opposite sex, both good and bad, but we’ll save those stories for another time.

Im no doctor love, by any means. I’m just as clueless as the next girl. But, I do live with 3 other college girls with long distance boyfriends, so I have learned a thing or two.

Girls, including myself, always like it better when they have a boyfriend or someone who notices them and gives them attention. It gives them more self confidence and lets them know that they will have somebody that will be there for them. Which is why when girls fall victim to the one word text responses of their mancandy, yeah we’re mostlikely going to freak out and wonder what kind of activities our men are participating in a million miles away while we’re stuck here in Rexburg, Idaho. Can you blame us?

Now , there’s two very important principles I’ve learned in my living here. First, “out of sight, out of mind,” and Second “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” In my opinion, it is more often than not that boys stick to the first principle, while girls stick more to the second. Why does it always seem that girls are the ones who are always willing to make sacrifices to make their relationships work, but guys seem to “move on to the next one” as soon as you’re out of sight. I’ve never really understood the principle of “out of sight, out of mind.” I mean, If you love somebody, distance shouldn’t matter, right? The fact that your in love should be that one factor that gets you up and out of bed each morning instead of wallowing away , watching sad movies, and eating ice cream: The common remedy for females going through heartache.

What about those who believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder? Well, I know for sure that I believe this. You don’t know what you have until it’s gone. In this case I mean that once you start spending day after day with your significant other, and then have to spend periods of time apart, that’s when you realize what they truly mean to you.

Let me address one final issue. Now girls, I know we can’t get inside of guys brains, but what I do know is that if they give you an indication, any indication at all that there’s hope, we have to trust it, even if it leads us to a little bit of heartache in the end. Honestly, I don’t think guys have any idea what they want. The truth is, girl’s don’t really know what they want either. They may have this list going of all the qualities they want in somebody, but that list can be totally changed along the road. There is only one thing we can do, and that is only to have a hint of hope to keep us moving forward. But a hint of hope alone is all it takes.